I haven't been to my WW mtg yet this week. I blew Tuesday night off in favor of hanging out with my bestie. We downed two bottles of vino & chillaxed on her back porch. Good times.
I'll most likely hit up the Saturday meeting to see what the wine damage from this past week has been. Work has been a beast. I don't feel the need to apologize for my possible weight fluctuation. I almost got laid off. It was a tense time. But I didn't get laid off, so now I can focus once again.
I went on another date with... let's call him The Photographer. It was just okay, and I'm not sure how I feel about that. He's an amazingly nice guy, but not in a pushover kind of way. He's holds a Masters Degree and is very well-read. He makes me laugh, and we have very similar sarcastic/jokey personalities. So what's the problem? He's very introverted & shy. This is the third time we've hung out (but only our first official date) & he still hasn't laid a hand on me! Normally, I'm very much the aggressive, if-you-don't-i-will type, but I just couldn't pull it off last night.
I'm used to going out with men who literally can't wait to paw me. Aggressive, 'take what you want' men. I'm not really sure what to do with this polite, geeky, intellectual that tries his hardest not to stare at my breasts during dinner. This even prompted a very R-rated dream last night where he (welcomingly) attacked my mouth. It was hot.
He mentioned that his last gf moved in with him after a month, so I'm guessing he had no issues in the bedroom in that respect, so what's the deal? And should it even be an issue?
I hate dating.
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it has been so long since I have dated that I can't even begin to think of dating advice for you!
BUT - sometimes slow & easy is better, right? Right? :) I'd vote for attack on the 4th hangout if he doesn't make a move.
I too say attack on the 4th if he doesn't. He is probably just scared to make the move.
I would definitely say DON'T make any assumptions about your (potential) relationship based on his old one. There will be NO good outcomes to that mindset.
And I agree - if you want to jump him, then do it. If he can't handle it - then you probably shouldn't date him anymore.
I also agree you should try and sneak something in there on the next date - you'd hate to end up dating him for 6 months just to find out you're totally incompatible physically.
Dating is a total cluster - as my life as taught me. It's hard to not rush into stuff, but it's also hard to be in the inbetween stage for too long. Good luck is all I can say!
Give it a little time. Sometimes it's the quiet shy ones that are the BEST when they finally make thier move. Plus, he is just being polite. Swasome and I didn't kiss until the very end of the 3rd time we hung out. Maybe it was even the 4th.
Go for it on the 4th.
I agree, sometimes the quiet ones know just how to make some serious magic happen when the time is finally right.
I have given up trying to figure out men. The last one I was with (the EX) I thought was "the one"; turns out he's "just not that into me". But, if you're catching this guy hiding little looks, and he's a bit shy as you say, he's maybe nervous about making a move. Why don't you? If you guys don't do something soon, it may move past "interested" into "friendship territory".
He sounds like a sweet guy!
- Lisa
www.losewithlisa.blogspot.com
I ABSOLUTELY LOVE your blog lady!!!!!!!!
Am I too late? Did you make a move yet? Because I say bide your time.
Sometimes it's a really good idea to get to know someone before you jump his bones. A relationship based on compatibility.... you know. That old-fashioned lecture thing.
Besides, if he's worth being with, it's worth waiting for. If you find that you can't stand him after a few more dates, won't you be happy that you didn't sleep with him?
Old and wise, that's me. Well, old, anyway.
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